Secret-keeping is an inevitable part of human interaction. In the same way that a human being learns to walk during his early childhood, he learns over time that it is better to keep specific thoughts to himself or to share them with only a few selected people. But how do you know if you should share a secret?
Secrets are bad for your health, both physical and mental. So what the point in keeping them? Is it just because our insecurities and fear of opening up to someone else? In this article, we will take a closer look at why people keep secrets.
Paul Valéry, a French poet and philosopher once wrote: “Men are distinguished by what they show, and resemble each other by what they hide.” A study showed that it’s true! the broad themes of what people hide are similar.
So, what type of secrets people hide? and what are the most common ones?
George Orwell wrote: “If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself.” Indeed, secrets place a very heavy weight on the people who carry them, and more often than not, they can profoundly affect the lives of individuals.
When parents come home tired or upset from a long day at work, many of them have the reflex of wanting to spare their children the spectacle of their bad mood. But is that really a good idea?
Once we understand how the past can overflow into the present, and how a difficult childhood can become, in adult age, a tumultuous and difficult present, we have a new opportunity for healing.
For a long time, the standard decision-making process stated that people choose between alternative courses of actions to maximize the probability of a desired outcome. However, psychologists noticed that individuals tend to have a unique propensity towards interpreting those outcomes in a specific, highly characteristic way. This way of interpreting events is known as an explanatory style or an attributional style.