George Orwell wrote: “If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself.” Indeed, secrets place a very heavy weight on the people who carry them, and more often than not, they can profoundly affect the lives of individuals.
When parents come home tired or upset from a long day at work, many of them have the reflex of wanting to spare their children the spectacle of their bad mood. But is that really a good idea?
Once we understand how the past can overflow into the present, and how a difficult childhood can become, in adult age, a tumultuous and difficult present, we have a new opportunity for healing.
For a long time, the standard decision-making process stated that people choose between alternative courses of actions to maximize the probability of a desired outcome. However, psychologists noticed that individuals tend to have a unique propensity towards interpreting those outcomes in a specific, highly characteristic way. This way of interpreting events is known as an explanatory style or an attributional style.