It is natural to compare yourself to others because you want to know where you stand. The problem is that these social comparisons are biased and costs us a lot of emotional angst. So, should we stop comparing ourselves to others?
When parents come home tired or upset from a long day at work, many of them have the reflex of wanting to spare their children the spectacle of their bad mood. But is that really a good idea?
Once we understand how the past can overflow into the present, and how a difficult childhood can become, in adult age, a tumultuous and difficult present, we have a new opportunity for healing.
It is not the situations, but the interpretations we make of them that determine our emotions. The philosopher Epictetus already stated it at the beginning of our era: “What troubles men is not things, but the opinions they hold about them. »
We’ve all felt guilty before: it’s unpleasant. Yet thanks to this emotion, we know how to distinguish good from evil and live in society. As long as you don’t let yourself be overwhelmed by untimely guilt …
For a long time, the standard decision-making process stated that people choose between alternative courses of actions to maximize the probability of a desired outcome. However, psychologists noticed that individuals tend to have a unique propensity towards interpreting those outcomes in a specific, highly characteristic way. This way of interpreting events is known as an explanatory style or an attributional style.
Carrying our lives with limiting beliefs could very well divert us from the path that leads to our goals and keep us from achieving them. Overcoming learned helplessness as one of the most subtle and lingering limiting beliefs is essential to success. It is crucial to break out of the chain of the illusionary helplessness that is ingrained in our minds.